First and foremost, I need you to know that this entire campaign has been approved by my son. He has read every word, seen every image and approved every step of the creation and planning of this campaign.
Why is this important? Because although I dedicate this campaign to both him and his sister, the story is his and I want to respect his journey.
So kids, this one’s for both of you.
The journey of mental health with my son has been heart-breaking and exhausting, to say the least. His panic attacks began when he was in grade 2 and it is only because we had an incredible teacher (thanks, Shaye Sanford) who recognized what was going that we were able to label what was happening as a panic attack and not just “bad behavior”.
We battled panic attacks and anxiety for years, but this 10th year of his young life has been the most difficult. My son is the kindest, funniest, most incredible kid and to watch him go through what he went through…well…it takes a toll on a parent’s heart and soul. And, apparently, it wears a kid down neurologically and leads to childhood depression.
It was during this past year that I discovered a serious lack of resources in the area of childhood mental health. My son was in crisis for over 6 months and we were put on numerous wait lists. It took us over 4 months to get in to see a psychiatrist.
Every day my son would ask “are we off the wait list?”, “can I go see a doctor now?” and every day I had to disappoint him and say “not today, buddy, I’m sorry”.
As he battled this illness with grit, determination, heart and a will to overcome, I watched my son in awe and admiration. How could he continue to put himself into a situation of panic and anxiety?
Because he believed he could overcome and beat anxiety. Some days he did and some days he didn’t. But every day I was beyond proud of him. I’ve never ever seen an adult battle anxiety like my son battled anxiety. He was and is a true warrior.
These months have taken a toll on everyone in our family. My son started to have a minimum of 3 panic attacks per week. Long, 3-hour panic attacks. After every attack, he was exhausted. As his mother, I was left depleted, feeling inept and judging myself as a horrible mother who didn’t know what she was doing.
But, it wasn’t until my son started to have “sad days” that his Dad and I really started to advocate and battle for our son. Sad days are scary. Sad days will knock the air out of a parents’ lungs and will rip a heart to shreds. Sad days…are terrifying. During sad days, I would give anything, ANYTHING for a 3-hour panic attack.
I began pushing for answers. Researching. Trying to find resources to help educate ourselves as parents. I tried to find support for my child, my family, myself. I was confused and at a loss. I had no idea where to get support. Wait lists were awful. Waiting was awful. Watching your son day after day struggle IS awful.
The lack of resources for parents is a major concern.
The lack of resources for kids is a major concern.
So, what can I do?
Pushups. I can do pushups.
I realize pushups won’t do anything, but maybe if I do 50 pushups for 50 days in super random places, I can help. Maybe if 100s of people join me and do 50 pushups for 50 days, maybe…just maybe…more discussion on childhood mental health will happen.
This is a campaign for my son. This is a campaign to raise awareness for childhood mental health and to get people talking.
I want to raise $2000 for this cause and find resources that need the money to do their good work. I am supporting Buddy Check for Jesse, an organization I love and adore for their work in mental health in sport, Head & Heart SK who are trying to #EndTheStigma and any other organization I find along this journey that I feel aligns with my desire to help in the area of childhood mental illness.
I hope you’ll join the challenge. And, if you don’t want to join the challenge and do 50 pushups for 50 days, you can simply donate to this cause.
I will not fail my son.
If you believe in this and in what I’m trying to do, please donate or join the team. I would absolutely LOVE to make a difference in this world for my son.
I am standing for him and all the other kids and their families going through what we’ve gone through. I am your warrior and I will fight for you. Believe that.
If you need me, I’m here. Please reach out.
To Donate and/or contact Lindsay, please CLICK HERE.
“Thank you Lindsay from the Stigma-Free Society. You and your family are truly inspirational for all of your amazing efforts. We wish you support and hope in your futures.”
Gabriella has made her mental health challenges into one of her greatest strengths, but it didn’t start that way.
Struggling with anxiety for as long as she can remember, Gabriella says, “I never knew any different. I thought everyone’s brain just worked that way.” As she got older, the anxiety evolved into recurring panic attacks and began affecting her schoolwork. Still, her anxiety also motivated her to work harder, and although her anxiety caused her to have challenges in school, she asserts, “It was also one of the biggest factors that led me to where I am now.”
With the support of Otsuka–Lundbeck Alliance, the Stigma-Free Society provided a post-secondary school scholarship to Gabriella to put towards earning her Bachelor’s Degree in Business Administration at Simon Fraser University. She feels that her competitive spirit and perfectionism allow her to have success in such a difficult program, but it’s these same traits that made her reluctant to seek help for so long.
Like many people in our society, Gabriella didn’t want to admit that her mental distress was an issue and that it severely impacted her life. She told herself that she ought to simply, “Suck it up,” and get by on her own. A shift in thinking came after she made many positive lifestyle changes from diet modifications to exercise regimens, and while this helped to some degree her mind simply would not shut off from relentless anxiety and worries. She stumbled across a documentary about women struggling with anxiety and depression, and eventually decided to try medication.
Gabriella often told herself, “If I’m not taking medication, I’m winning.” There is so much stigma around people who take medication for mental health, whereas people who take medication for physical illness are rarely judged so harshly. Gabriella states, “I noticed in a lot of people, they feel that taking medication for mental health is something that is a weakness instead of something that can make you feel stronger.”
Since then, she has received support from friends and family, and has had friends tell her that her decision to take care of her own mental health has inspired them to do the same. Gabriella asserts,
“Mental health is in everybody, and everybody needs to be taking care of it.”
Finding out her condition had a name felt empowering to Gabriella. She finds success in overcoming her anxiety through regular meditation and exercise, and practices positive affirmations. Like many people who struggle with perfectionism and anxiety, no matter what has been achieved, Gabriella often felt like she was never enough, or that she was not meeting her own expectations. These practices, as well as working with a doctor regularly to manage her mental health, help her feel that she is not a victim, but rather an active driver in her own wellness. Gabriella states, “I have a part-time job in Finance and I am in school full time for Business. I have a really great support system and my friends mean the world to me.”
One of the most important insights about managing her mental health is refusing to see herself as a victim. Gabriella does not view her anxiety as a negative obstacle, but as a means to push herself and become stronger. She encourages others by saying, “Use whatever strengths and weaknesses you have, that’s who you are. You can work to improve yourself, but you can’t change who you are. Use that to motivate yourself and do great things. Use it as a positive light.”
Robyn Thomas, Community Development Manager, Stigma-Free Society
Many students on campus are carrying around more than just heavy textbooks. Not only burdened by the pressures of fitting in, and keeping up high grades, some students are facing hidden adversity made worse by the effects of stigma.
With the support of Otsuka-Lundbeck Alliance, we were able to give two deserving students who have overcome societal and self-stigma a scholarship to put towards their post-secondary program of choice. One of our two scholarship winners, Ruzzelle, began having mental health issues in high school but didn’t believe that getting help from a professional was an option.
“I almost failed my first year of University”, she says, “and it wasn’t until I started to see somebody later on that I could slowly get a handle on just living.” Mental health wasn’t something Ruzzelle’s friends in high school talked about, and like many families, hers did not talk about mental illness in a constructive way. “When I told them I was depressed, they wanted to take me to Disney Land because it’s the happiest place on earth! They just wanted me to get better and they didn’t know how.” Eventually, her family offered her the financial support to see a counselor.
The counseling sessions helped Ruzzelle become aware of her self-defeating thoughts, self-stigma being among them. She spent years struggling to simply get out of bed, but for a long time, felt that it was a problem best handled alone. Now Ruzzelle says, “I feel like the anxious thoughts are more manageable now, I think because I’ve had all this practice, time and support.”
Now that she has the support she needs, Ruzzelle is completing a Masters Degree in Speech-Language Pathology. “I’m entering a field where I’m going to be able to help other people go through their own journey of stigma which is amazing. I never thought I’d be able to do that.”
We asked Ruzzelle how it felt to receive a scholarship based on her experiences of overcoming stigma and she responded, “I felt very supported. I heard all this bad news in the media all the time, but hearing what one non-profit is doing for students about stigma is amazing. One of the good pieces of news that I need.”
When asked what she would say to other students suffering from the effects of societal or self-stigma, Ruzzelle would like them to know that, “You’re not alone in your journey. All it takes is one person to really listen to you and it can be life changing.”
Congratulations Ruzzelle and all the best in your Masters Program!
The Stigma-Free Society is currently looking to hire an additional Stigma-Free Zone School Presenter to join our team!
The Stigma-Free Society provides education and awareness about the effects of stigma, as well as peer support for those facing personal challenges in hopes of fostering acceptance of ourselves and others. One of our primary programs is the Stigma-Free Zone School Program.
We are looking for an extraordinary individual to tell their amazing personal story of hope and resiliency in schools to small and large groups. With an initial focus on mental health, we have now expanded our mandate to include all stigmas under the Stigma-Free Zone banner (www.stigmafreesociety.com) with an emphasis on mental health, LGBTQ2+, homelessness, race, and substance use. If you have a powerful story of overcoming obstacles and dealing with stigma, be it societal stigma or self-stigma, we welcome your application.
We are seeking a school presenter with passion and positivity–someone who has lived through and overcome many challenges. If you are truly inspired to share your story with youth in schools (grades 7-12) and occasionally with adults at businesses and organizations, then please keep reading!
This position best suits someone who is VERY accepting and comfortable with themselves and their personal circumstances and is not afraid to talk about their struggles in a public forum. This someone wants to shout their story from the rooftops because they feel that their experiences will make a difference in the lives of others.
A Stigma-Free Zone Presenter must:
- Be professional and possess experience in public speaking;
- Be open-minded and willing to learn from different perspectives;
- Have a positive, respectful attitude and a willingness to be open and authentic;
- Be comfortable with public speaking and presenting to small or large audiences;
- Be self-motivated, punctual, and able to take direction;
- Have an engaging and impacting personal story to share;
- Prior experience working with youth is an asset
- You will create a PowerPoint presentation with the Society’s guidance and it must be suitable for youth in grades 7-12;
- You will be presenting between 45 to 90 minutes to classes or assemblies and various groups in the community;
- We will train you. The training will generally take about 2-3 weeks to complete (part-time) and you will be paid $400;
- We want to put out a very positive message and we welcome stories that are tough. We are seeking applicants who have been through a great deal to get to where they are today and we will work with you to share your story that will encourage others;
- It is very key to know that if hired, we ask you to commit to work with us for 1 year;
- There is not an average number of presentations promised, but enough that is rewarding and will give you the skills and practice you need to keep you inspired;
- We expect you to be aware and educated about various marginalized communities and on what available mental health resources exist in the community; and
- We pay you a flat rate of $100 per presentation – this fee includes all of your expenses, including gas.
*VERY IMPORTANT TO NOTE – You will be contracted during the school year with summers off. This position is best suited to someone who has a part-time job and/or plenty of flexibility in their schedule. We offer a minimum of 2 weeks’ notice for each presentation, so you can plan ahead.
**You require a guaranteed means of transport to and from your presentation. Public transportation is not acceptable as it is very important you are to show up at schools 20 minutes for set-up before a presentation and many schools are not accessible by public transit.
We would really love to hear from you and have you join our amazing Stigma-Free Society Team. Please be sure to describe in your Cover Letter why you believe you have a powerful story to share.
APPLICATIONS WITHOUT A COVER LETTER WILL NOT BE CONSIDERED.
Remember that no matter what our challenges, we can all live extraordinary lives!
We look forward to receiving your resume and cover letter at: firstname.lastname@example.org
Thank you 🙂
Join Speaker, Andrea Paquette, President and Founder, Stigma-Free Society for the #thatwellnessthing
Join the Langley Education Centre to learn more about mental health and wellness at their Second Annual Open House & community resource fair!
Wednesday February 27, 2019 4:30-7 PM at Langley Education Centre
21405A 56 Avenue, Langley BC
Presentations & Information Tables
- Mental Health & Wellness Counselling
- Suicide Prevention
- Violence Prevention
- Healthy Living
- Substance Use
- Settlement Services
Students 16+, adults, and school staff welcome.
No registration required.
Light refreshments and on site photo booth.
The BC Responsible and Problem Gambling Program
Provides free information, resources, and treatment to support informed choices and healthy behaviours with respect to gambling participation.
Encompass Support Services Society
Offers a variety of free, accessible community programs and activities for all ages with a primary focus on children, youth, and families. Programs and services include: family mediation and reunification, youth homelessness, sexual abuse counselling, after school activity programs, pre-and-postnatal support, parent-child drop-in groups, and parenting support groups.
Several different programs of Fraser Health will be attending the event including public health nurses from the Healthy Schools program and overdose prevention, as well as mental health clinicians from START.
Fraser Valley Youth Society
Supports LGBTQ2S+ and Allied youth in the Fraser Valley by connecting them to their peers, their communities, and by providing supportive & inclusive help where needed. FVYS operates a weekly drop-in and attends other special events and programs throughout the year offering Education and Awareness Programming.
Langley Community Services Society
Assists individuals and families to enhance their lives through the provision of information, services, and programs. Staff from the Substance Use Program and the Settlement & Employment Program will be attending.
Langley Hospice Society
Provides compassionate support to help people live with dignity and hope while coping with grief and the end of life.
The Stigma Free Society
This new and exciting initiative is dedicated to the awareness of the stigmas that exist in society, to help develop an understanding of the challenges that numerous people face, and to encourage acceptance.
The Baristas Training Program
This program of Pacific Community Resources Society is partnered with Starbucks and BladeRunners to provide support, guidance, and training for at-risk youth. Eligible youth ages 16-30 will receive life and employability workshops (5 weeks), and work experience at a Starbucks store (4 weeks).
Express to Success
Offered through Mission Community Skills Centre Society, Express to Success is a 14 week paid training program (6 weeks in class, 8 weeks work experience) for eligible youth ages 15-30.
This Way Ahead
This program of Pacific Community Resources Society offers youth ages 16 through 24 an opportunity to gain valuable skills and confidence in the customer service field through a series of supported workshops (9 weeks, part time) and a paid internship with the GAP, Old Navy, or Banana Republic (10 weeks, part time).
On January 30, Middle and Senior School Assemblies included presentations by EJ Weston, a School and Community speaker from the Stigma-Free Society on the topic of stigma with a special focus on mental health.
With a focus on resilience and hope, EJ shared their own personal experience with mental illness, overcoming trauma, and the importance of self care. The thought-provoking talk was an excellent way to reach students with important information, and provided a framework that will encourage them to work together to create an environment free of judgement and stigma.
Please view Glenlyon Norfolk School’s newsletter HERE
Thank you so much to Glenlyon Norfolk School for supporting the Stigma-Free Zone Movement.
The Stigma-Free Society is thrilled to be partnering with the Otsuka-Lundbeck Alliance to offer two deserving youth a scholarship of $2000 to be allocated to their educational pursuits.
Two B.C. students experiencing the effects of social stigmatization, either because of mental illness, LGBTQ+, homelessness, race, or addictions issues, will be selected to receive this scholarship for their Spring 2019 term.
To be eligible for the scholarship, applicants must be B.C. residents and complete a Scholarship Application, and must have dealt with or be currently dealing with the effects of stigma in their lives. Applicants also must be planning on attending school and be accepted at an accredited educational institution for the Spring 2019 term. Applications are due no later than December 10, 2018.
The Stigma-Free Society is committed to eradicating stigma through awareness and education, and we want to ensure that those who experience the negative impact of stigma know that they are not alone and have tangible opportunities to be supported.
For more information and to obtain an application, please contact Andrea Paquette, President, SFS: Andrea.Paquette@stigmafreezone.com
NOW CLOSED. THANK YOU!
STIGMA-FREE SOCIETY – NOTICE OF 2018 ANNUAL GENERAL MEETING (AGM)
On behalf of Mr. Dave Richardson, Chairman and Ms. Andrea Paquette, President, of the Stigma-Free Society, you are invited to attend our charity’s 2018 Annual General Meeting.
DATE: Monday-October 29-2018
LOCATION: President’s East Room at the Vancouver Club
address: 915 West Hastings Street, Vancouver V6C1C6
MAP to location: https://goo.gl/maps/E4dhw3MfFWP2
TIME: AGM @ 6:00pm-7:30pm doors open at 5:30pm
Members and Friends of the Stigma-Free Society are encouraged to attend this important meeting to set future direction for the Society and share our past year’s successes. Please share this information with your contacts who may be genuinely interested. This is an open public forum.
Agenda to Include:
. Report from the Chair (Dave Richardson)
. Guest Speaker (Darrell Burnham, CEO, coast mental health)
. Video Presentation
. President’s Report (Andrea Paquette)
. Treasurer’s Report (Alysha Rahim)
. Board of Directors Confirmation
. Other Business and Open Floor Discussion
PLEASE NOTE: The Society also has an additional guest speaker to be announced soon.
Cocktails and refreshments will be provided.
RSVP via e-mail Andrea.Paquette@stigmafreezone.com by October 20-2018
Thank you so much for your support,
Andrea & Dave & The Stigma-Free Society Team
The Victoria Pride Society started as a casual picnic in Beacon Hill Park over 20 years ago, and it’s now the host of one of Canada’s largest Pride Weeks, including the annual “Big Gay Dog Walk,” the infamous “Dragball” event, and the parade. This year’s parade boasted over 100 floats and participants, starting from Pandora Avenue and leading to the culminating festival in MacDonald Park.
Robyn Thomas and I had the opportunity to attend the Victoria Pride Festival on behalf of the Stigma-Free Society. Setting up our booth at 10:00 a.m. on Sunday, July 8, the park was already bustling with vendors and eager attendees, decked out in the colours of the rainbow flag.
Stigma-Free was among a wonderfully diverse and eclectic range of vendors, including health care resources, political parties, local non-profits, and some very proud puppies from the Humane Society.
We asked passers-by to contribute to a community conceptualization on “What a Stigma-Free Zone means to you,” which was met with creativity and enthusiasm by individuals of all ages eagerly brandishing rainbow markers. Some of the suggestions included self-love, readiness to learn, education, and awareness.
Towards the end of the day, I took the opportunity to speak to other vendors and festival attendees about stigma in the Queer community.
Asking about what stigmas exist and persist for the LGBTQ+ community, most people were overwhelmed. Many alluded to stigmas that exist within the community, noting that a white, cis-gendered, misogynistic narrative is often problematic.
One group spoke to the way stigmas that were once outright and offensive towards Queer folks are now hidden under the surface of conversations and interactions. They added that these hidden stigmas are often almost as debilitating as the more overt oppression and hatred they faced in the 80’s and 90’s.
A nurse at the BC Nurses Association tent also highlighted the generational impacts of stigma, praising the positive youth approach to queer identities, but adding,
“Those of us in our 30’s, 40’s, and 50’s — many of us are still in the closet, there’s still fear there.”
The nurse emphasized the importance of inter-generational learning and collaboration for stigma-reduction.
While many attendees noted progress that’s still needed to create safer, Stigma-Free Queer communities, they also expressed their gratitude for events like Pride. When I asked what would be important for Queer-friendly Stigma-Free Zones, folks asked for body positivity, accessibility for all, and active inclusion of people of colour, and non-binary and trans identities.
I also had the opportunity to talk to Jonathan Degenhardt, Men’s Wellness Programs Coordinator at AIDS Vancouver Island. AVI works closely with the Queer community, promoting sexual health and harm reduction around HIV/AIDS, with an emphasis on anti-stigma messaging. Jonathan aims to create safer spaces in his workplace by making programs as low-barrier as possible, identifying that the men who come seeking HIV/AIDS support may also be dealing with social isolation, financial hardships, and disabilities.
When I asked Jonathan about how stigma affects the Queer community, he identified that Pride festivals are often very able-bodied events — the grass festival grounds, for example, made part of Victoria Pride inaccessible for those in wheelchairs.
However, Jonathan emphasized that there is gradual progress towards more diversity and acceptance is in the LGBTQ+ community, adding “I’ve attended five Pride events [in Victoria], and tiny changes are happening — there were tons of trans flags up this year, which was a great sign, but it’s a slow process.”
“In order to offer a safer space, it takes challenging conversations, ongoing education, flexibility, and humility,” said Jonathan.
As we expand our reach as a Society into diverse and intersectional stigmas that branch out from Stigma-Free’s mental health background, the LGBTQ+ community in Victoria is one that we are incredibly proud to partner with. Stigma-Free is looking forward to more work with Queer activists of all genders, races, abilities, shapes, and sizes. We’re excited to develop the Stigma-Free Zone movement to serve the diversity of the Victoria community.
Author, Katie Clarke, Community Outreach Assistant, Stigma-Free Society
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